Becoming Love Quest #1

Spot the story

When I first started using the Becoming Love process, I really carved out the time for it. I would sit down, create a calm space for myself, and write everything out. And honestly, that’s when I began to see real shifts in my awareness, and then in my lived experience.

Over time, I became so familiar with this process, I found myself seeing everything through this framework. It became less about needing to sit down and do a full process every single time, and more about bringing the essence of the work into real-time moments.

So I asked myself: How can I simplify this? How can I use this work in my daily life, at work, in conversation, or while something is unfolding?

What emerged was one simple question:

“What’s the story I’m telling myself here?”

Anytime something felt a little off, anytime I had the awareness of jealousy, disappointment, worry, or internal constriction, I would pause and ask that question. What story am I telling myself? What am I making this mean?

More often than not, that was enough. I didn’t need to do the whole process right then and there. Just acknowledging the story helped me see the difference between my fears and the potentials of truth. And in that moment, I had a choice.

So for this week’s quest, I invite us to practice exactly that.
Pay attention. Notice the moments that catch your attention, even subtly. And simply ask:

“What’s the story I’m telling myself?”

That’s it.
Once you have that awareness, you naturally open up more space to choose consciously, rather than react from fear or old patterns.

As always, share in the group chat, because when we show up in vulnerability and authenticity we support and inspire each other. Each unique experience of awareness or growth contributes to the evolution of the whole.